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Just plain Rivka's avatar

This speaks to me. I don’t like rules. I don’t like being told what to do. I turn off Waze when I can because I don’t like being dictated to.

But I am at the extreme end of the rule-following spectrum as an Orthodox Jew. As a woman, the veneer of mindless obedience intensifies. As an FFB I am peak mindlessness. It actually gets worse, because I treasure my relationship with my parents and am viewed as an extension of my mother by people I am close to.

It’s a lot to swallow.

But I have found, like you say here, that true freedom comes only out of constraints, true actualization is only through duty. True morality only comes from doing what’s right.

Being a free spirit and thinking for myself is something essential to my essence. No jail could take that from me. I can’t even take it from myself, though sometimes I wish I could.

There is an aspect of individuality and honest introspection that is entirely compatible with a lifestyle that necessitates conformity. That’s the sweet spot.

The edges are a bit to navigate.

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

That book was everywhere, even on our reservation. I still see multiple copies in used book stores and imagine that used book stores have inside jokes about it. It really hit me when I first reas it when I was a kid. It was my first experience with poetic prose, I think.

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